I realize now that not even my mom or dad could have helped me out of misperception. She passed on a few years prior to my turmoils, and of course that experience of itself being extremely difficult. And I also understand now that they of course couldn't even relate to me if they weren't having the real experience of this themselves yet.
So I had gone through some ideas of forgiving early on after her passing but not with any intention other than say the immediate relief. It's hard to put words too it actually now because it is all meaningless in reality. But early on, I forgave my mom and dad for many things as I remembered past traumas of childhood that had been disguised. I did have some very blessed forgiving moments with my dad before he passed on that were like precious gifts to me.
The biggest difference for me now is that I recognize she couldn't have helped me understand anything about atonement. Because it was not something she accepted for herself yet. The thought came to me today too that it was like my mom saying to me: I brought you into this world but now it was up to me to find my way out of it! And that is a light hearted way to express it, but this also has been my experience. Although me and my mom were always able to joke around quite a bit too! It is just my individual undoing that another is unable to do for me. God is with each one of us in the same way. His plan is perfect. He is Risen, Indeed!
As Gods light becomes apparent and I see things and say things with a light heart now too because misperception is cleared out of my way. I see everyone in this idea of One God light, in no opposite in love joy and peace, as in no stranger, no conflict, no competition, etc... It's like illusion becomes meaningless and then it clears the way to see through to perfect creation experience! Meeting with forgiveness and then somehow a shift takes place and I recognize it.. It is a miracle. God's plan for salvation is a miraculous individual course! Although, God only gives to each individual in the same universal way. I find this so more than interesting...so satisfying. Peace to you dear, beloved! Delighted to share with you always. Jeannine